While there are many reasons why we fail to get the results we want in our business and our life, there is definitely one reason which is the source of lack of results.
I will talk more about it in a minute but first I want to share with you how I came to such a conclusion and why you need to pay attention, because if you’re not getting the results you want, I’m 98% sure you’re making this mistake too.
I have been part of the network marketing industry for a few years now, and I am infinitely grateful because it has helped me learn what to do and what not to do to become successful not only in my business, but also in my life.
And one of the most important lessons I have learned is that every change has to start in me, and I have to master a skill in order to be able to teach it.
In network marketing what we do is teach others by example. We learn to become leaders of organizations, and the only way to do this is to start being a leader or ourselves.
And what does this have to do with the #1 reason why people fail?
Has everything to do, because if you don’t manage to get rid of the #1 reason for failure, you won’t be able to grow in your business or in your life. And you will find yourself trapped not only inside your shit but that of all other people who also make this mistake.
So what is the main reason why people fail?
The #1 reason why people don’t get where they want in life and don’t get the results they want, is because they tell themselves excuses as to why it hasn’t “happened” for them.
Don’t get me wrong, I have used excuses to make me feel good as to why I haven’t achieved the results I want. I have made this mistake too. But we need to be aware of something in order to eliminate it.
So, how do we use excuses and how do they affect us?
Excuses are just lies that we tell ourselves to explain why we haven’t gotten the results we want. And most of the time they are lies that we truly believe are true.
Things like “I don’t have the time”, “I don’t have the money”, “I’m too old”, “I’m too young”, “I need to be more prepared”, “I haven’t found the right opportunity”, “He is more qualified than I am”, “I’m not lucky enough”.
You can think of many and probably unique excuses you say to yourself everyday.
That’s one of the most valuable lessons I have learned with my network marketing business. If you buy your own excuses, you WILL BUY your prospect’s excuses as well.
You will never be able to grow your business if you allow yourself the luxury of excuses.
And this does not only affect your business, but your life too. Your relationships, your family, your health, finances, and all.
There will always be excuses as to why it’s not the right time to start something. And you need to start finding those excuses and be honest with yourself and acknowledge it.
It’s easier to tell yourself the story that conforts you. The one where everything is happening to you and you don’t have a choice or a way to solve it. It’s very hard to be able to say that you’re afraid to try, or that you’re too confortable where you are, or that you’re just too tired to try.
Excuses make us feel better about the decisions we make. Especially when we get bad results from them.
Why do we use excuses?
Because we all try to protect our selfesteem. We don’t like to know that we could do much more than we have done so far. That would make us look like fools.
Now, you may be thinking that your reasons are real and compelling and it’s not bullshit. But as long as you defend your excuses and that mindset, you will stay that way forever.
And some of us are conditioned so well to believe our own excuses that we don’t even find the will to try to change and find solutions.
Plain simple. Excuses close your mind to producing solutions. Excuses will give you more reasons to keep on doing the same thing.
I have seen success happen in every aspect of my life where I have not allowed myself the luxury of excuses.
And I have also seen success in people who have made a decision not to tell excuses.
And if you find yourself surrounded by people filled with excuses, then you should look at yourself and ask why. Because we attract who we are and that is a reflection of who you are. And until you get rid of the excuses in your life, you will find yourself submerged in other people’s excuses too.
So, start with yourself. Get yourself out of that vicious cycle and start creating your future.
Excuses close your mind to producing solutions.
There is never a perfect moment or situation. You are the one who creates the perfect moment. By deciding to take action no matter how hard or frightening taking action may be.
Now I know it’s not an easy thing to do. But the best thing about deciding to get over excuses is that you will make your mind work to find solutions, and you will find strength that you didn’t even know you had in you, but ultimately you will get the result you’re after. Sooner or later.
I bet this has happened to you at least once in your life.
You wanted something so bad, that you were willing to do anything and everything in your power to get it. And you got it.
It has happened to all of us. The power of making a decision and eliminating excuses has allowed all of us to get the results we wanted at that time.
I have experienced it a lot this past week. Where some of my associates make a decision that whatever happens, they have to go to an international convention. They understand that they have to do everything to make it happen. And in the end, they make the time, they get the money, and the resources needed to travel to another country to be there and learn.
While there are other who give up before even trying. Telling excuses like “I don’t have the money”, “It’s too late now to get my passport”, “I have to take care of my children”, “Flights are to expensive now”, “I can go next year”. And things like that.
Guess what. The ones who don’t tell excuses are the ones who make it happen and get the results. The others stay the way they are today. With the same life and the same results.
So which person do you want to be?
Do you want to be someone who makes things happen, or do you want to be someone who has good reasons to keep on failing?
Start with yourself. Don’t allow yourself the luxury of excuses. And please, don’t defend them. Don’t defend that which hurts you the most.
Now, how would you get started? And how would you find the strength to get over excuses if you haven’t been able to do it before?
Think about this for a second.
Think about someone you love. The most important person in your life. Maybe it is your mother, father, brother, sister, partner, or whoever you want.
Think about that person. Let’s say it’s your mother for the sake of this example.
If there was a scenario where your mother was very sick, and the doctor told you that the only way to save her is to give her a medicine that costs $4,000 and you only have 48 hours to get the money to buy this medicine, or otherwise she will die; what would you do in this situation?
Would you find the willpower to do it? Would you do anything and everything in your power to get that kind of money? Even if you are broke today, and you have maxed out your credit cards. What would you do? Would you give up before even trying?
Hell, the only thing I know is that in this situation you would not fail. You would simply NOT fail. There would be no excuses. You would just make it happen, because it’s the power of the human spirit.
We are all capable of overcoming anything when we decide we want to do it.
So the only way to overcome excuses is to create urgency around that thing that you don’t want to do, or can’t do, or have postponed so far.
Make it urgent today.
Think about how much you have already lost and are still losing because of the excuses you have been telling yourself.
And most of all, think of how much you are failing not only you, but people around you that are couting on you. Perhaps your family. Your children.
Now if you think about it, there is no failure in life.
There is no failure if you learn from your mistakes.
Most of us are afraid of trying because we are afraid of failing.
You have only failed if you have not learned from your mistakes. If you have learned, then you have won, because you will do better next time you try.
Most things in life can be learned. You just have to develop the skills. You don’t have to have all the answers, and everything prepared to get started in something.
However, you do have to get over your excuses. Do whatever you know you have to do.
Excuses are the main reason why people don’t succeed in network marketing. So you first have to find a way to change your mindset and work on yourself before you can teach and help others.
Magnetic Sponsoring helps you understand how to develop this mindset and will help you get over your excuses.
Magnetic Sponsoring is your starting point to grow your network marketing business. It’s all about who you become in the process that will allow you to be successful in your business and your life.
So, get Magnetic Sponsoring today and start learning how to overcome those obstacles. You need to train your mind and your emotions and it will help you do that.
Have you found in which areas of your life you are making excuses? And more importantly, do you know how you plan to overcome those excuses and start taking action towards achieving solutions? I’d love to know your thoughts about this subject. How much time do you think you have lost already because of excuses?
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